rationalisms:
it still boggles my mind whenever i see all those entirely unironic “actually gay fanfic is pedestrian and normie now and has no transformative value at all, het pegging fic is where it’s at these days” takes because, like
i lived in a small, conservative town for most of my teenage life where i was already an outcast because of my ethnicity so when i was outed against my will at the age of 13 my life was essentially over. i was the only openly gay person at my entire high school and i was mercilessly bullied for it. the only book in our tiny town library that had actual gay content in it was “giovanni’s room” which literally revolves around one of the gay men in it being executed and which i still read six times because for so long i had nothing else.
i felt so crushingly, desperately alone during those years and it absolutely didn’t help that whenever i turned on the tv, or read what lit was available to me, or went to the cinema, all i got was straight people being shoved down my throat. and even when i did find myself in characters or relationships, the canon was quick to remind me that they were never meant to be for me or about me. no gays allowed.
so being able to go online and find other people who felt the same way, who saw what you saw, too and didn’t think you were insane or reading too much into it? being able to access treasure troves of fiction of gay people getting to have all the same plots and relationships and happy endings straight people got to have? that stuff genuinely saved my life at the time. it was my lifeline when i was a terrified and lonely gay baby.
and i know my story isn’t unique– i have heard the same story from dozens of people. hell, even if my situation isn’t at all that dire anymore because i have an actual great support system of fellow lgbt people around me now, the overwhelming heterosexuality of mainstream media still depresses and infuriates me on a regular basis and being able to have that one space where i can point at two people on tv and say “gay” for once and have at least some people agree instead of laugh at me will never fail to make me feel better about it all.
i don’t understand how some people so readily discount that because they’re mad that there’s so much stucky fanfic or whatever. it’s one space among an otherwise incredibly hostile atmosphere where gay relationships aren’t dismissed at the outset for once. hell, even that is still highly limited to specific websites and social groups– i assure you the fandom content that gets mainstream distribution or interaction with the content creators is still overwhelmingly het.
idk, i just really think some people need to get their head out of their ass and consider a context beyond their limited tumblr discourse clique is all.