Stop asking little girls if they have boyfriends
Stop referring to the boys that little girls are friends with as their “little boyfriends”
Stop telling little girls they’re going to have boyfriends or be “boy crazy”
Stop raising children on heteronormativity and let them be children
Additionally: 1. It’s not funny 2. It’s not cute 3. You are embarrassing them 4. You are completely disregarding them when they tell you “no” and you insist
Stop doing the same to little boys too.
They are not “a little lady’s man.”
Don’t excuse him picking on a girl as him having a crush. Correct the behavior and stop treating it like it’s cute and normal.
Also stop insisting little boys have crushes on significantly older women. It’s gross.
Just let kids be kids.
Its not “men and women just cant be friends” its “you fourced romantic implications on children and made them uncomfortable/embarassed, socially conditioning them to not platonically interact with the opposite sex”
Stop it. let kids be kids. Let kids be friends
EXACTLY
My family members once referred to my 4 y/o cousin as a “pimp” ‘cause he was friends with a bunch of girls at his kindergarten
tbh i think a lot of straight people being ‘clueless’ are just them adamantly denying gay people exist
i’ll never forget that woman who went to buy a bed with her wife and the saleswoman would not accept they were lesbians even when they said ‘we’re married’ the saleswoman had a pained look on her face and asked ‘friend-married?’ they’re not clueless or stupid they’re just monsters
*holding back internal screams of Classicist rage*
THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS LABELING SEXUALITIES IN ANTIQUITY.
There was the active role and the passive role. The active role (penetrative) was a symbol of higher status, control, and maturity–usually pointing to the older figure. The passive role (submissive) was associated with often times a lower class status (usually meaning woman, but could also mean a man of a lesser social standing), and youth (aka an unwed woman or a man who couldn’t grow a full beard).
Read about the trial of Neaira (totally kickass woman), who was accused of being TOO active in her interactions with men and society. They didn’t care that she was a prostitute, or that she was thought to be doing other women and men (rumored to even do so at the same time *wink*); they just didn’t like that she was taking on the active role, in her sex life and beyond that. They literally were like “You can be all loving with your body and soul, but cut it out with the independence.”
But also … learn your history, “historical realism” dumb-dumb. Christianity? Really? REALLY.
Zeus did not turn into a giant eagle, sweep away Ganymede, make him immortal and his personal cupbearer, just to have you erase his big old gay love by saying that the Greeks followed monotheism instead of their collected wacky shelf of polytheistic deities.
Oh, and I approve of the above image use 😉
“I know Ancient Greece-” You know shit, dude. Whoever was in charge of your classical education failed you. Badly. Starting with the very basic fact that ANCIENT GREECE PREDATES THE EXISTENCE OF CHRISTIANITY BY SEVERAL THOUSANDS OF YEARS.
Not actually comprehend anything happening right in front of them
heteronormativity is a hell of a drug
May I add:
Once on Facebook I mentioned getting married at a big mad max themed campout. One of the guys that regularly attends told me to take my wife to visit his camp for a drink. I told him my husband, actually.
And he then said “wow, I’m sorry, I’ve never met a girl named dave before! Now I’ve seen everything.”
This dude thought I was a girl name David before he thought I was a gay man. Straight people are wild.
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